Have you ever met someone who seemed to glow from the inside out? I’m talking about someone who radiated such a positive vibe it made you want to know them better? Maybe it even had you wanting their secret to finding happiness?
The main person that comes to my mind is Dee. Dee was an older guy, probably in his late 70’s when I first met him. Confined to a wheelchair with a history of heart problems, a pacemaker and decreased endurance and functional mobility, Dee had a handful of problems. You would never know about them, however, upon meeting him. An upbeat personality and a positive comment for just about any situation was all he exhibited.
When it came time for therapy, Dee would always say,
“Wellllll let’s give it a shot, dear.”
It didn’t take but two sessions for me to note his steady progress. He never once said he couldn’t do something. He never complained. Was every treatment session perfect? No. But did his attitude affect his progress? Did it ever.
Dee was one guy who exhibited an inner magic that affected more people than I think he realized. Just remembering him inspired me to put together a quick list of my top ways YOU can unlock your inner magic too. And the good news is…finding happiness not as hard as you think.
The first thing I would tell someone who is looking to unlock their inner magic and radiate a glowing personality would be to – simply – stop. Slow down your life. Not only is being too busy stressful, but it also robs you of so many experiences and meaningful moments that you will later regret. Here’s an acronym for reference.
S – slow down
T – take a breath
O – open your heart
P – pray
For me, this acronym has held true in every aspect of my life. Whether it’s related to school, work, relationships or dealing with personal struggles, learning to just stop and take a breath has proven to be extremely helpful.
Praying is the next step. I know in the beginning it may be hard to develop a habit of praying, but this one act alone has been my saving grace. Even if you disregard every other step I’ve listed, prayer alone has the power to help you in finding happiness. As someone who often carries too much weight on their shoulders, I can testify to this. Just a simple “thank you” to the one God who created you unleashes so much stress. It lets you know you are never alone and there’s always someone who loves you.
But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
– Isaiah 40:31
Overall by the end of the day, my goal is to not be so mentally drained that my cognitive function is shot. To avoid this, I try to carve out at least 30 minutes of my time to enjoy a hobby. Whether it’s writing, listening to music, reading or watching TV, I always try to pick at least one to enjoy. One of my favorite things is to sit down at the piano in the evenings and play. What kind of things do you enjoy doing?
Whatever way YOU find to enjoy yourself, do it. Your mental health will improve, as well as your inner sparkle.
2. Eat a Salad
The second thing I would tell someone would be to eat a salad. No joke.
Because filling your body with nutrients and vitamins only does good things. Want to feel good? Then you have to eat good. Eating raw vegetables fills you with antioxidants, fiber and the nutrients not only necessary to survive – but thrive. Don’t like salads? Never fear. Find a raw food instead that you enjoy – it could be anything from mixed vegetables to sugar snap peas to fruit salad. Then try to incorporate it into your diet.
Want my personal advice on the healthiest vegetables to incorporate? Pick kale or spinach. They are some of the most nutrient dense foods out there.
Now I’m not saying go completely change your eating habits. Just incorporate ONE healthy thing into your daily menu. For me, this means eating a salad every day. It also helps build a good momentum for making future nutritional decisions.
For more info on how to build a good momentum, read How to Get Fit Now – The Underlying Hack.
3. Unleash Your Energy
Ever been frustrated by something? One really effective way of pushing bad vibes out is by unleashing your energy. Some days this means going to the gym for an hour. Some days this means simply laying down in your living room and doing 30 crunches.
Whatever happens, just know that each day will be different. You will have your ups and downs – however getting your heart rate up consistently does improve health. That, in turn, helps you with finding happiness. For those maintaining a more sedentary lifestyle – whether you’re a student or working a desk job – this holds especially true. Exercising has been proven time and time again to decrease stress. It’s one of the many rewards of getting up and being active!
Need motivation to unleash your energy? Read Finding Motivation to Workout
4. Spread the Magic
Something that I continually try to do better at is reaching out to others. Whether it’s a family member, friend, co-worker or even a stranger, reaching out to other people betters YOU as an individual. It causes you to turn your focus outward and away from yourself. In a society focused so heavily on self gratification, this simple act of kindness and consideration toward others is sometimes lost. I know I can sometimes get caught up in thinking about what’s best for me. However, I’m not always the happiest when I do.
It’s amazing what a simple “Hey, I’m thinking about you” or “How’s your day going?” can do. When you are focused more on others, not only do you worry less – you are more attractive as a human being. Another plus is that reaching out is even easier than you think. Ever underestimated the power of a smile? If you have, it’s time to change your thought process. Your influence (whether you believe it or not) has monumental effects on other people. I know for me, there have been days when a complete stranger smiled at me – and it was the most uplifting thing in the world.
So if you want to unlock your inner magic – smile. Text someone. Call someone. Try to help them out with their problems. Hold the door open for them. Simple acts of kindness should never be overlooked.
5. Reward Yourself
Hard work and discipline are some pretty awesome traits, however a little indulgence every once in awhile is GOOD. Our bodies are not made for a 24/7 grind, 7 days a week, 12 months a year. If you’ve been working hard – whether its at work, building a more positive mindset, helping someone out, reaching a goal or even building better self habits – then reward yourself!
Spending some time devoted to your own well-being is healthy. It boosts not only your confidence but your drive and self-esteem as well. It’s also a wonderful way of staying motivated.
Want to know my treat of choice? Shopping and then going to Olive Garden. But massages are a close second…
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Conclusion – Finding Happiness
Whatever you enjoy, I first challenge you to make a goal for yourself (don’t make it too easy or too hard though). Then once you reach that goal, find a way to treat yourself. It doesn’t matter what it is…just relax and enjoy it!
Before I head to bed, one final thing I will leave with you is this anonymous quote that has stuck with me.
No beauty shines brighter than that of a good heart
No matter what happens, always remember that the true path to finding happiness isn’t determined by appearance, status or wealth. It’s determined by your mindset and the right heart. The next time life throws you lemons, be like Dee and say,
“Wellllll, let’s give it a shot dear.”
Until next time,